The Problem Down Below! Wetness and Discomfort make me insane! Plus This is what I do to cope with Adult SPD

by The Black Sheep

I am a 20 yr old female. I was diagnosed with ADHD in 3rd grade I want to say? I have been on medication ever since. I looooovveee my Concerta (The prescription I take). I had issues when I was younger, they eventually went away, then THEY CAME BACK! My family thinks I am "just a sensitive girl" "OCD" "hypochondriac" w/e... I knew it was more than that and I finally got fed up and found this amazing site!

I self-diagnosed myself with Tactile Defensiveness SPD. I have not yet been able to try therapy for lack of funds, but I do what I can to cope. Here's what I have figured out so far and a little info of what I have issues with:

- I had bought as many of the same thing as I could. Spent an entire year in long-sleeve sweaters, jeans, and flip-flops.
- TANK-TOPS are a Life-saver, to this day I cannot go without one. When I was little and the puberty changes started, the tank tops with the cup-less bras helped a lot.
- JACKETS! I wear them year round. I would describe them as a comfort blanket. Still use daily in adulthood.
- PADS! I bought WINGLESS! And bought underwear a size too small to make it comfortable. Also had some success with panty liners.
- I could not use tampons until after sexually active.
- As it was going away I used Victoria's Secret Boy Short Lace underwear (Not full lace, just lace around the waistband and leg holes)
- I have had my fair share of panic attacks and crying spells because I was uncomfortable, however once I discovered SPD and started self treating they haven't been as bad.

- The development of BREASTS! I love it and hate it!! I finally solved the problem however. I have found Ambrielle to be the only brand I can wear in a bra (Find that perfect bra and stick with it!) Has to be a push up and the more coverage the better! Plunge is a NO-NO for me!
- THE COMPRESSION SPORTS BRA When it came back this solved all my above waist issues (along with the tank top under everything) Nike is what I use. COMPRESSION is key! I wear it over my bra... I know it seems ridiculous, but honestly as long as I am comfortable I could care less.
- I can't figure out the UNDERWEAR THING! I do know that I went to Victoria's secret and bought shape-wear for just that area, it helped, but the WETNESS issue continues. It is the LAST thing I need to fix to be comfortable in everything!
- I do use a lot of toilet paper, and I am sadly more comfortable during my period because of tampons, but the other three weeks are hell.
- I am never on time... It takes me an hour and thirty to get ready in the morning. I HAVE TO TAKE MORNING SHOWERS and I am practically OCD about hygiene.
- SUMMERTIME I wear Nike Track Tempo shorts and Hanes cotton Briefs Comfort waistband and I feel amazing.
- I love LEG-WARMERS during winter, it takes away the weird feeling of your jeans against your leg and boots...
- LOTION ON THE FEET and THICK ANKLE SOCKS! Philosophy is my favorite lotion on my feet because it lasts long enough for me to forget about socks
- Tighter shoes... more foot forming like New Balance Track-like shoes (The only tennis shoes I wore in High School)
- Panty liners are good for the wetness... but are also uncomfortable beginning to be uncomfortable... I AM LOST ON THIS. I plan on trying the gluten free diet and finding some cotton underwear that doesn't give me underwear lines. My problem is ANY* discharge regardless of it being normal, drives me insane!
- I sleep naked no matter what!
- Commando doesn't work for me
- On the days when I just don't feel like dealing with it, I wear my Nike shorts over thick sweat pants with the Hanes underwear. I am in college and work at a cleaners so I have the luxury of wearing this often.
- I still, to this day, prefer to be naked at home.

Apparently some ADHD medications (including mine unfortunately) can exacerbate Anxiety symptoms. That may be why my SPD came back, and I also pick at my eyelashes and eyebrows! Especially when I am stressed out with school. I don't know what to do about this just yet, I have to stop myself repeatedly. It usually happens during Final Exam time in school and goes away right after.


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Feb 04, 2016
by: The Black Sheep

So I know it's been aa while, like 3-4 years, but I wanted to update you all about some stuff!

First! I went Gluten-Free and all organic. It changed my life, I probably have had an 80-90% symptom decrease from doing this in combination with discontinuing the concerta I was being prescribed. I also started taking supplements to help with the anxiety and ADHD. I don't take the Anxiety supplements as much anymore (BECAUSE I DON'T NEED TO! :) ), but I am taking the ADHD ones.

*L-Theanine - My life saver. Best thing I tried for my anxiety attacks. It's just an amino acid, but it's a miracle worker.
*Phosphatidylserine (PS100) - memory and brain function
*Fish oil - memory and brain function
*5HTP - depression and anxiety (also helps with over eating)
*Natural CALM - Magnesium supplement to help with sleep and anxiety

Also, the Lunette menstrual cup saved my life when my symptoms were at their peak, even though I was using them incorrectly. After about a year and a half of using it wrong I threw it away because it had gotten damaged, and I started using tampons, but the PROPER way. I just recently bought a new cup and I'm thrilled. And I WON'T be using it incorrectly anymore (BECAUSE I DON'T NEED TO!)

Another thing, I don't know if I mentioned that I had begun wearing Spanx for a while for compression, but I have stopped that, and also, I stopped wearing underwear. To be honest, it is the only thing that I have found that doesn't cause me to have issues with the wetness. I can wear leggings, jeggings, jeans, pants, shorts, whatever now that I have stopped.

Now, I did find that Hanes made a bikini Comfort Waistband underwear that was cotton and I loved it. Also, track shorts with build in underwear are kind of awesome.

Also, I am wearing unpadded sports bras over my bras or tank tops with shelf bras or even a bandeau over my bra for added compression. I still do this unfortunately, but I'll take that over Spanx everyday any day.

Also, I don't know if I am allowed to do this so we'll see. But I have a blog on Tumblr with all my secrets, tricks, recipes, and products.

The page exclusively for SPD is:
Be sure to check out the things that have helped so far page.

And my page of natural products, supplements, and recipes is here:
This one is still a work in progress, but maybe it will be more informative by the time you get to it!

Thanks for being there guys! And I'm glad that my post started to get people talking about this! Because it needed to be!

Oct 07, 2014
Finally feeling slightly "normal"
by: Anonymous

This is my biggest issue too! I am constantly changing my underwear and trying to keep down there dry, which is entirely impossible as a female. I have yet to find anything that helps, but reading these posts have made me feel so much better. It's so nice to know I'm not alone.

Sep 03, 2014
Diva cup, my two cents
by: Anonymous

The diva cup did not work for me, wouldn't sit right on my shaped cervix. Resulted in spilling oodles of menstrual blood at rather inopportune times despite really trying it and consulting the company.

However, I will say, this device covers the cervix. Your discharge is coming from there and some from the vaginal walls, but collecting it in that way daily could just not be a safe thing. Your body needs to breathe, and moisure we women have has a purpose; it actually cleanses ourselves inside. Messing with that, esp as suggested in a long-term use way, I just don't see that as healthy. Please, consult with a good gyn first!

I suffer from hatred of this feeling too...I just try to change undies often, and use a lot of tissues down long term solution for me yet either. Good luck, and please be careful with your feminine health.

If you start charting your cycles, you will notice when you have more discharge...maybe come up with a solution around those times specifically? Check "cervical discharge cycle" online.

All the best!

Jul 01, 2014
Avoid Wetness
by: Anonymous

Have you tried a diva cup? You can wear it even if your not having your period. Fairly steep learning curve on how to insert and remove it correctly, but once that skill is mastered, you'll never know how you lived without it. Look it up on Amazon.
2 tips... try the small first (cut the tip piece off) regardless of your age or birthing history. Second, clean it by soaking it in a cup of hot water/peroxide mix over night.
Good darn thing ever invented.

Apr 28, 2014
Uhggg the WETNESS is the hardest for me too!!!!
by: Arch-wetesis

I hate this problem as well. I cannot stand panty liners either. I have to go commando in lulu lemon yoga pants black only and extra long so they bunch at the ankle, in boot cut not legging or wide ankle, except with jeans then I have to wear Victoria's Secret cotton blend panty with lace around the waist and legs only. Even then I am still annoyed by the sensation of moisture.

Working out is the hardest time for me due to the general moisture content in that region.

Being on my period is the only break I can get. Even the. I hate the feeling if being sweaty so I still can't completely avoid
It then either.

I have gains about 20 lbs too so that makes me a lil more sweaty down there.

Sleeping naked is the only way I can sleep and is the only time in the day when I'm comfy. I also prefer to be naked at home. Getting dressed is usually me trying on a bunch of clothes and I end up wearing the same 3 outfits usually all black and always a scarf.

Jan 04, 2013
by: The "Black Sheep"

I was on there, still researching my problems, and I found that Spanx has some very good clothing options. Not nice/dressy clothing obviously, but they look very comfortable for tactile defensive, especially the sweat pants!

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