Tracey

by Tracey
(Ft Lauderdale, FL)

My 3 year old son is very aggressive toward my 1 year old son. It's to the point that I can't leave them alone for 1 minute. He pushes, hits, sits on him, pulls his hair, and scratches him. I thought it was just sibling jealousy and I figured it would go away a couple months after my younger son was born, but it's not getting any better. Does anyone have any suggestions to help with this issue?

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We have the same exact issue.
by: Anonymous

I have a one year old and my SPD son is 2.5. I thought he would grow out of the "jealousy" phase by now but it seems to be getting worse as far as action goes, but less frequent. He use to try to bite him or push him and he did it all the time- He was use to all of our attention and then I had to feed this new little baby, bath him, etc. Now he is fine when I feed him, tend to him but he will not let him play with anything- even the baby toys, he will hit him, push him, sit on him and now he has tried poking him in the eye with whatever he can. I will not leave them alone, I have to carry the baby with me to wash my hands or do whatever. I can no longer leave them both in the living room while I grab them a snack or whatever. I will see him go towards him and I will tell him to stop doing whatever it is he is doing and he just ignores me and keeps doing it (poking his eye, etc). It is scary and frustrating. I dont know what to do. Have you had any luck with anything?

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been there
by: marisa

I know how you feel. Your sensory child is seeking his sensory needs, that's what I'm thinking. Our 3 year old does that to our 2 yr old daughter. When I see it, I pick him up and take him to our family room where we have set up his therapy activities. I will let him crash or give him sensory input.

See if your child needs his needs met when he does this. Good luck

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How Frustrating
by: Anonymous

I would buy a Flip Camera and record him when he IS getting along with the baby. Even if it is for a short time. I would then edit out any bad behavior he makes during the recording. This is very user friendly. Then you can show him the movie of how nice he acts and what a good brother he is. I also used a doll before my son was born that I would hold and allow him to hold. We would practice being gentle to the doll and things like that. I don't know if this will help you, but it is just an idea.

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