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My daughter is 9 and I am having a horrible time trying to find her new underwear, I don't know how many packs I have gone through. She is down to one pair and I don't know what to do anymore! She can't seem to handle the new feel. I have washed them and stretched them and that doesn't work. I have bought a bigger size and the same size and she still doesn't like them. I think what I should do is throw out the ones she wears and deal with the 2 hr tantrum but I wanted to see if anyone else was having problems with this? I told her not to wear any at all but she doesn't like that feeling either.

She has had this Sensory Disorder probably since she was born. She did get some OT right before K for a year but I don't think it helped with her clothing issues. Transitioning from warm weather to cold and vice versa is always difficult to! She also has issues with shirts & pants. Right now the shirts aren't long enough and if they are to big she doesn't like them either. I am at my wits end. I think I can deal with the shirts but the underwear is a problem its just not sanitary to wear the same underwear all week long. Please help!!

Thanks
Heather

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CONFUSED!
by: Anonymous

My daughter is 7 yrs. old and started last year having to cut the tags out of all her shirts and some pants, but mostly shirts. Not just the tags at the neck, but I have to cut the tags that are sometimes located at the bottom on side of the shirt. She will not wear blue jeans, but will wear the spandex pants with elastic in the waist that look like jeans, but are made of a must softer material. She does not like shocks at all. The seams have to be just right, or complains they make her feet too hot.

Last year when we took her to Disney World for the first time, we told her she was going to have to wear tennis shoes, not flip flops. She was okay with the tennis shoes, as long as she did not have wear the socks, but I told her should would get blisters if she didn't. So, after trying on 6 or 7 different pairs of socks, she still refused to wear them, and by this point my husband was so frustrated, he told me that he and my other daughter are going to go ahead and go to the park and that we could come whenever I could find socks that my daughter would agree to wear. So Frustrating! You know there are times when there are tags that are scratchy and do bother you, and I have had to cut some of them out of my shirts as well, but if my daughters even sees a tags in a shirt, she yells "tag, tag" like it is some king of bug or sometime, really weird. And the tags at the bottom of her shirts, I tell her how can this be bothering you when the tag is not touching your skin. Anyone else dealing with something similar to this?

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Undie Probs
by: Anonymous

Im 14 and have sensitivity problems with clothes. I cant stand most tennis shoes and have NO underwear i usually end up having a fit idk what i'll d when school starts my mom is ordering me some but they probably wont work. My advice is to try hanes underwear they're quite comfy until they get to small.

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hoping to get some relief
by: Anonymous

Hi I'm 22 years old and I have had this problem since I've been very little. My socks have to be turned inside out, tags cut out of clothes and shoes have to be very soft inside. Nothing with a hard toe or back. I've been wearing ugg boots all winter since they're the only thing that seem comfortable. I used to fight with my parents every morning when I was younger. We didn't know what wrong. I just thought it was my ocd. Now that I know what this is called I'm going to seek help. I refuse to let this rule my life any longer.

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Underwear issues here too!
by: Anonymous

OMG! I am having the same issues with my 6 year old daughter. Socks and shoes, tags and shirts have always been an issue and now this year it is underwear. She throws major temper tantrums every morning usually and screams that the seam from the lining bothers here. She has now resulted in wearing her underwear low on her hips so that the underwear hangs on her. It's very frustrating. I have always wondered if she had a sensory disorder however clothing is the only thing that appears to bother her and prior to this year, it was only with me and Dad. We had assumed that it was her being strong willed and some mornings have been really bad... I recently talked to her teacher and she stated that my daughter messes with her clothing all day and had a fit one day when the teacher asked her to put her socks on... We are currently waiting on a referral to see a specialist. Thank you for the person who posted the comment about the gluten free, I am going to look into that as well. I did find a website that has seamless underwear, sensorycraver.com. I just ordered a pair. Let's hope it works:)

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Soft clothing
by: Anonymous

My son has been dealing with SPD for almost 4 years, & I have found several different site very help this being one of them. He also has clothing issues. I love this site & they are constantly adding to their collection & are always looking for feedback. They don't have panties yet, but perhaps soon??? Best of luck. http://www.softclothing.net/

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mine too
by: Heather W

OMGoodness!!! This makes since now!!
We are just learning about my sons sensory issues (have all ways been there just figuring it all out) and he hates the pants i get him. They have the buttons inside with the elastic to make them fit right. It is the only kind that fits his extra tall but extra skinny self. i have fought with him over this, make him wear them and now i feel about this tall "TINY"....

I can't believe i have been making things worse for him on this. SO i will be cutting the buttons out. But he hates a belt too it is to tight no matter how loose. I think i may have a new problem here, but now i know where to come to figure this all out and how to get it off "my Chest" now i just have to learn how to help my little man cope with this too.

Does any one have a problem with hair brushing? it hurts him!! and he will scream it too me until he is blue in the face i know now it's not just him being mean about it it is is SPD and will deal with the situation differently. but we have used every brush, comb and fingers i can think of. And he want do it his self, but you got to wash and brush your hair. right?

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DebbieKinIL
by: Anonymous

Ask your daughter to describe why her only pair of underwear feels "right".

She maybe able to identify the body area that is super sensitive. Is it the legs? waist? too low or too hi? Seams? Material? Layering? Does she have any ideas, what would work?(really, sometimes our kids come right out and say "lets try this, cause I think it will work" or "this won't work because....)

When you find out more about areas to avoid and areas that are not sensitive, you can then try different underwear that might work.

My DD hated anything on her waist. But she loved wearing her swimsuit- we had a really big problem with underwear (only 1 pair that worked) until we found out that she can tolerate leotards as underwear -they spread sensation of the touch of her pants waist band against her skin. Also pants.... we needed comfy stretch pants with wide waist bands- like yoga pants- We found this style at Justice..

We talked and talked about how the underwear feels when it is "right." and why the new underwear doesn't work.

And occasionally even the "right" feeling leotards won't work and then we know that we are going to have a rough sensory day- and that my DD needs to do extra jumping and compressing joints, brushing . And extra, extra, extra (did I say extra? LOL) time and distraction are needed for getting dressed. This is usually on a day that the weather has changed. Transitioning from night wear to day wear is tough and like your DD from hot to cold weather clothes. Everything hurts some days !

On any new item of clothing- this included underpants and leotards- my DD does habitation. And we have a big reward for successfully learning to wear an item of clothing that my DD has said it is comfortable to wear. She must wear the item of clothing for 4 hours to earn points for a big reward.

Also I do not use the dryer on any of her clothes-ever... I hang everything on hangers. IMHO, the dryer wears out clothes faster.

Also have an item- like a nightgown or PJ's (no underwear) that your DD can change into and de-stress and be comfy when she needs too.

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Hi,
by: Anonymous

It sounds like your daughter is having the same issues as mine has and they're similar ages. With the underwear issue, it helped to wash them many times before she wore them, preferably with a lot of softener, then they will all feel like they are 'well worn'. I've even taken to making my daughter physically hand her dirty underwear to me each morning so she can't try and pass off a clean pair as the dirty! It is a very uncomfortable sensation they feel when wearing something unfamiliar so the things that are attempted to try and get away with it are amazing! I hope this helps and good luck.

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Underwear Alternatives
by: Anonymous

My daughter has underwear "issues" as well. It helped us to have several alternatives she can choose from like bike shorts or even leggings. Our rule is as long as her bottom is covered, she can choose what she wants to wear.
Also, it may seems totally unrelated, but we have seem a MAJOR reduction in these types of tantrums after removing gluten (wheat protein) from her diet. I would encourage anyone whose child has SPD to try going gluten-free. The results for us have been amazing.

Best of luck to you as you look for solutions!

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SPD?
by: Anonymous

Hello Heather I have the same problems with my baby, she always wears the same clothes worn out. I have not found solutions. Im sorry. The problem is neurological and their problems are real. Doctors that you care for SPD, and the many variants of autism spectrum disorders you are our hope.

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underwear
by: Anonymous

This sounds silly but have you let her try wearing boys underwear or boxers? or you can try having her wear Under Armour Shorts. Bathing suit bottom? As long as she wears underwear who cares what it looks like.

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