WOW!

by Violet

I can't believe some of the things that are placed as "symptoms" - What if kids really are being kids. Many of these behaviors I had when I was small and I would even check some now that I'm older but I don't see anything wrong with that.


It seems to me that we know want to label our children with so many "disorders" or dysfunctions, or whatever instead of praising them for their individuality. We just want a name to their "problems" and when we get one, we can path that part up and add some meds as if that was gonna fix them "problem" I know that some of these mental disorders can be true.

I was diagnosed as bipolar, then some form of schizophrenic, then with Major Depressive disorder, then they said I had tendencies of Borderline Personality Disorder. They gave me all these meds that only made me gain weight made me feel even worse. I was just having a tough time and I needed someone there for me. Now I'm fine.

Sometimes I feel crappy, sometimes I don't. Sometimes I'm hyper, sometimes I'm not. I did not need to be diagnosed with all those disorders neither did I need crazy doses of all those meds.

I think we need to be more loving towards our kids and accept them the way they are because in reality, most, if not all of these disorders, are a bunch of crap. They only become legit because of some dumb-cluck who has those extra letter after his/her name. A lot of the people in the psychology fields care only about money and that's not cool. I'm not a psychologist but I know that sometimes classifications and med prescriptions are not the best answer to our kids acting the way they do.

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Jul 17, 2009
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Are you for real????
by: Rebecca

I mean this in the most respectful way, Get a Life!
You have no idea of the challenges mums and dads face with children that have SPD, though I understand that it is your ignorance blinding you.
all the best mate!!!!

Mar 17, 2009
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Sometimes a Diagnosis Helps get help
by: Anonymous

Okay, you survive by figuring out what it takes to do so. What about children who have no friends, and embarrass their relatives because they don't control their over stimulated nervous systems and lash out or spit or kick or kiss those closest to them in public, or have abnormal theories about relationships or who or what they are? I believe some of us have problems that could be adjusted by therapy and education so that we could better control our behaviour and have somewhat normal relationships with family, friends, and neighbors.

Mar 12, 2009
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RE:WOW
by: Anonymous

mom of a 2.5 year old girl here and I am sick to death of people thinking that parents WANT their child to be labeled, have an illness or disorder, or are lumping normal baby/toddler/child behavior into "symptoms" just for the heck of it .

Like we are somehow failures as parents if we suspect something is wrong and then advocate for our child to get the help they need. ARGGGHHHHHHHH.

Feb 26, 2009
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a difference
by: Anonymous

As people have said here already, the difference is that these issues with our kids prevent them from normal lives. Let's say your shirt tag bothered you, you would find some way to remove it, or if you were a normal child, speak to your parent about it. These kids cannot always identify the irritation and will just act out. If your kid is throwing a tantrum on the floor every morning when you are getting him/her dressed, this sensory issue is not mild, it is impairing everyday life. I have a friend whose son cannot function with socks and shoes on. Those are a part of everyday life. Does the sound of nails scratching on a blackboard grate you? Can you imagine feeling that "coming out of your skin" feeling just because of your socks? You would be wild and misbehave, for sure.

Another reason to seek therapy for these kids is to PREVENT medicating them! If they can learn how to cope with their sensory issues, they may not have a teacher sending home requests to have said child eval'd for ADHD. This is what I worry about. My child is in constant motion seeking vestibular input. She is 4... if the OT can teach her to deal with these feelings, she might actually be able to sit still in school without those meds!

Feb 01, 2009
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re wow
by: Anonymous

Well I have a right as a parent to do everything I can for my children and I will always be there advocate. You may have had quirky behavior or maybe the tags bug you on your shirt. It depends on if these symptoms are interrupting your everyday life. My children cannot cope or function right without their therapy.

I don't know why people think parents WANT to label their kids. Did you think I woke up one day and said "hey!! I want my kids to have autism!"

Gimmee a break

Jan 29, 2009
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WOW revisited
by: Anonymous

Violet- I understand where you are coming from. We just need to be careful not to cast such a wide net so that every difficulty we encounter is considered part of the disorder. Specific criteria, with allowance for human differences is necessary.

Nov 30, 2008
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To Anonymous
by: DW

Would you please tell us what "issues" are you talking about and what kind of trouble represents in his everyday life, so we can understand you better?

Thanks,
DW, the author of "Thank you a lot"

Nov 28, 2008
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I understand
by: Anonymous

I also understand what you mean, but here is the difference that I can tell you as a parent who blew it off. It never lets up,it is relentless and a constant battle with these issues and there is no way to be consistent because these are inconsistent children.

The biggest struggles are day to day activities that for us are easy,it only becomes a disorder when it effects the persons life. And if ignored it gets worse, then you start labels that don't need to be applied at all.

Mom of an average intelligent kid with SPD, which I ignored thinking it would go away. IT DOES NOT

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