Clothing sensitivity..... please help

My daughter is 4 1/2 years old and cannot for the life of her wear clothes. One day something will be okay enough to wear and the next day nothing is okay. We will literally go through all of her drawers, her entire closet, and the literally 20 pairs of underwear we have bought and nothing will "feel okay".


My big question is should i let my 4 year old go commando, i feel like in a way i'm letting her get away with this behavior but on the other hand i feel like if i'm making her wear them it's like telling a kid okay sit in this tub of scalding water and like it. i'm so frustrated but sad at the same time, we are constantly fighting her to get her dressed and i don't like the relationship we have anymore, we have never been like this and it is only over clothes she will fight me, she was just diagnosed with sensory integration about a month ago... i just dont know what to do getting dressed is a part of everyday life. She can't walk around naked everyday!!!!

please help!!! my email is mary032086@yahoo.com if you have any advice or thoughts!!! thank you!!

p.s. i have also threatened to keep her home from preschool (which she loves) and it just ends up with her hitting and screaming ... which is not like her!!!!

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Sep 07, 2016
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Great Story
by: Anonymous

It was great to hear this story of your childhood.

I can not express enough how fitting your story was it is as it is my granddaughter today at the age of nine. She wears school uniforms it takes 1-1 1/2 hours to dress her. It is a wild ride every day. she also wears her socks & underpants wrong side out. She wear ("So" the brand )undershirts these work the best the bigger the better. I have to buy size 16 panties wide cloth band at the waist.loose gets her through the day.

Thank you again
Feeling hopeful.

Sep 05, 2016
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Wow, so this is really a thing, huh?
by: ABC

I am 30 now and I definitely suffered from this (as did my poor mother, by extension) as a child. UNDERWEAR would cause MAJOR meltdowns. I simply refused to wear it.. It just felt "not right!" Just unbearably uncomfortable... Almost a weird torture like if you were to have an itch on your arm or something but you had no way to scratch it--a feeling of helplessness leading to CRAZE leading to RAGE... It would honestly just drive me MAD.. I'd scream and cry uncontrollably.

I would actually hate anything with a waistband at all. My mother wouldn't let me wear dresses to school commando obviously (around the house I'd normally wear a nightgown with no undies), but luckily it was the early 1990s so overalls were in style. I wore so many overalls and jumpers up until I was in 2nd grade. In third grade, I discovered that I could wear a pair of jeans but only with a leotard underneath instead of underwear. I finally found an underwear I would wear with the help of my mom (they were called Jockey French Cuts, if they even make those anymore). The solution for me ended up being a thick waistband. The band has to be about an inch or more for me to be comfortable. Even to this day! Oh, and it needs to FULLY cover the cheeks. No riding up. Again, even to this day.

All the tags were cut out of my clothes as a child and I, too, had a major problem with socks. I would have to wear a very specific length and they had to be tight so there were NO wrinkles and I wore them inside out to avoid the toe seam. I totally get the massaging/applying pressure method that others are talking about because I used to have to put the socks on in a very specific way. I would pull them all the way up, roll them all the way down (so it looked like two snakes wrapped around my ankles) then roll them back up. It made me feel like they were even or something. And perfectly smoothed out.

I have not been diagnosed with OCD, but as an adult, I do recognize that I have some obsessive compulsive tendencies. As far as the condition goes, I do still have days here and there where I feel like I'm 5 again and just so IRRITATED by my clothing. And I hate any pants and undies that are not high enough in the back. Anything nearing butt crack exposure drives me nuts. I have three very specific brands of underwear I will wear. But it's generally under control now.

Oh it might also be worth noting that I have always had dry skin and I am prone to skin irritation. My mother brought me to the doctor as a child and he said this clothing issue was probably due to my dry skin and he recommended an oatmeal bath, aveeno oatmeal soap, and lotion after a bath. But this never really felt like a skin issue to me. And none of that made any difference at all. In fact, the feeling of putting on clothes after lotion enraged me further. I would have to run around nude to dry off the lotion completely before letting the clothes touch me.... It's more like something with the NERVES or something than the skin. Ultra sensitive nerves?? *shudder* I don't know. Ugh, I'm reliving it. Enough for now. :\

Aug 09, 2016
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Shoes not right!
by: Anonymous

Hi...in the last week I have had difficulty getting my daughter dressed - all footwear poses a problem - too tight, too loose - just not right - not this appears to be extending to all clothes. She pulls frantically at the ankles of her socks trying to stretch them out and on the shoulders of vests and swimwear despite the fact that the clothing is not too tight. I made a comment recently that she is getting so big and growing out of all of her clothes and am not sure if this has precipitated her behaviour. She is also starting national school in 4 weeks and I am worried that she wont wear her uniform. I have changed shoes several times to try and facilitate her but am not sure if it is just a phase or the start of something long term. Please help.

Jun 30, 2016
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Everything wrong about clothes
by: Stoye

Hi,

I'm 24 years old and I'm struggling with OCD and sensory disorder from the beginning of highschool.

Every morning I stand up with anxiety and stress knowing I have to get my clothes on. Especially pants are bad around the waist. Even pants that are way to big seems too small for me. It freaks me out and my stomach and head hurts so much because of the stress.

My OCD is also related to my clothes: I always have to have an amount of numbers of pants, t-shirts, ... or any kind of colours.

Every second of the day I'm trying to control my clothes in every single way. I'm a regular guy that's about to get married with a lovely girl who supports me, but doesn't understand what I'm going trough. I work from 8 till 6 and it's very hard to go trough the whole day without relief. My girlfriend is also a very busy person and I always have to go somewhere, so I don't have much time to 'rest'.

Does anyone have any tips for 'accepting the uncomfortable clothes' and stop 'obsessing about numbers or colours of clothes'?

My psychologist tells me 'not giving in to the obsession' is the best way to deal with it. I do this and it helps, but just not enough, it's still controlling my entire life ... .

Thank you for your comment.

Jun 26, 2016
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6 year old with extreme clothing sensitivities
by: Anonymous

I have noticed clothing sensitivities with my daughter since age 2. It has slowly gotten worse and now at age 6 I can barely get her dressed. It takes 1-2 hours of crying, going through every pair of underwear, every outfit we have, despite me altering clothes and picking the simplest outfits I can. It is mentally wearing me out and I feel awful for her too. I don't know how to help her. Waiting for a psychiatrist report to try and get her medical and wrap around care, but in the meantime I am heartbroken for her.

Jun 08, 2016
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Find favorites & buy a bunch
by: Anonymous

My 10yos tolerance of clothes is entirely dependent on where her "baseline" anxiety already is. And clothes (loose,) that to me, would seem to be the answer are not. When your child is NOT in a "mood" ask them what about certain articles if clothing bothers them. We've determined very specific yoga pants/shorts are for very bad days. (She can't really tolerate feeling movement against her skin at all when she's in a mood like that.) That & there's a style of dress (think large t-shirt dress) that is our fall back for these days. As she's gotten older we've learned what works & will pull from dirty clothes if required. On underwear, just keep trying till you find something that works. (& then buy them up in multiple sizes even.) my answer to my kid has been that "XXX (shoes) are required to participate in life. You need to figure out a way to make it work. I'll help." I think, knowing you understand they have a need & you're trying to address it helps a lot.

Apr 13, 2016
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need help understanding
by: Anonymous

Is it laziness or a actual issue for a 6 year old girl not to keep her butt crack covered. After you have went out and got them pants that fit them.

Apr 05, 2016
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dealing with the itchy i cant wear that
by: Anonymous

I have found letting my granddaughter who is 9 years old help come up with the solution works best.Panties are wore wrong side out seams on the out side plain is best... glitter is beautiful but not wearable. Socks must be inside out, must be stretched to fit dad's foot.shoes buy wide.

Clothes never wash sweaters with their clothes. this make the unbear fuzz balls, run through a second rinse. Hair extra conditioner,let hair dry before brushing. give them something to entertain there self as you brush. I have few upsets.

she was 3 when this started getting bad.

Apr 04, 2016
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Great to no longer feel alone
by: Anonymous

Our daughter is 4 and has refused to wear knickers or socks for a year now. And it is getting progressively worse. She will wear knickers only when there are no other clothes on her body - eg at bedtime (she will not have any covers on). She will not wear anything around her waist, will not wear layers of clothes (so I cannot put a vest under anything to stop it feeling itchy), has to have all labels removed and we experience the panic and stress of dressing every morning.

We went skiing and my DD wore her ski boots - without socks! Just a thin t-shirt (no other underwear) under a ski jacket and ski trousers. She hit her ski instructor one day for trying to put her helmet on. Usually she is very loving and caring but when it comes to clothes her personality changes.

It was such a relief to find other people in the same situation and many thanks to those of you that have taken the time to explain to us parents what it is actually like to go through this. You have managed to voice my daughters words as she cannot yet find the vocabulary to do it for herself. It has brought me to tears to realise that my daughter is not just 'acting out' but really has an issue with wearing certain types of clothing and I thank you for enabling me to have this revelation.

So now we can move forward with better understanding, give my DD the support and belief in her feelings. Needless to say I have just ordered the seam-free socks so highly recommended here!

Mar 13, 2016
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Sensory processing disorder/ocd
by: Anonymous

Worth the read...

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3736727/

Mar 11, 2016
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Clothes Cause my Daughter Extreme Pain
by: Momof4

My daughter is six years old and has had clothing sensitivity since she was two. Wearing clothing makes her miserable. Getting her dressed every single day is incredibly sad and frustrating for both of us. Wearing pants is especially uncomfortable for her. Finding clothes that she can wear is very difficult.She can't wear the clothing she wants because it hurts her. For example, today she picked out a special fleece robe at the store. When we got home she was acting like she was on fire when she put it on. Screaming it hurt her and threw it off. It is difficult for us to even leave the house. She prefers to wear her clothing inside out. She is now in kindergarten and hasn't out grown her sensitivity to clothing. Everything hurts her skin. We need answers.

Has anyone found a diagnoses?

Mar 01, 2016
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Sensory Processing Disorder
by: Caroline

My daughter Olivia is 6 years old. She has struggled with Sensory issues from her clothing since she was 2 years old. At first it was just her underwear that she could not wear. Then it became socks, tights, pants and certain shirts. It was a daily struggle to get her dressed every day.

My husband and I had opposite ways of dealing with this too. He would force my daughter to put on her clothes and felt that she was just acting out. Which just caused her to scream and cry. I felt the screams and cries truly hurt her for some reason and I was going to find out why?

Needless to say this was a huge burden on my marriage. My husband blamed me for her behavior and told me I was creating more issues by giving into her behavior. I would try sometimes for hours to get her dressed. It completely changed our family dynamic. My daughter could only wear extremely loose clothing. My mother-in-law was much like my husband and felt that her granddaughter looked like a mess everyday. I felt judged as a Mom.

My daughter was diagnosed with Sensory Processing Disorder at age 4 by her pediatrician. Omg it had a name! I couldn't believe there were other Parents that went through what I was going through. Other children that had this disorder.


I did so much research online on how to handle this. I came across the clothing brand Smartknit seamless underwear and socks. I explained to Olivia this would help her. And it did for a while. She was able to wear underwear and no longer just VERY LOOSE sweatpants. The socks were AMAZING as well. She put her socks on with no problem at all. After about a year of just wearing this brand she also started wearing other underwear and other socks. It became a non-issue for about another year or so. I started buying her the cute princess underwear and normal Haynes socks. That lasted about a year. We are back to seamless socks, underwear and only certain clothing.


Now it's a new struggle. Ballet tights! Every week my daughter refuses to put on her ballet tights. I cut off the toes because of the seams. I have searched everywhere for seamless ballet tights. Her recital is in a few months and I know there is no way I will ever be able to get these tights on her.


It's now just me and my daughter. If there is anyone out there with any advice at all I would appreciate it!

Feb 15, 2016
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Sensory processing or OCD
by: Anonymous

Hi, I have posted before and am posting again because we have found something that has worked for our daughter. With all the research I have done I have come to the realization that while the therapy community (and my husband and I are both physical therapists) labels this sensory processing disorder, the medical community labels this as a subcategory of OCD. At the neurobiological level, both are correct and there seems to be a connection. We tried OT and brushing and massage without lasting benefit. What did help, after 3 years of trying every other possible avenue, was a very low dose of Zoloft and cognitive behavioral therapy. To be honest, the CBT therapy alone may have been the game changer but we started the Zoloft shortly after, so it's hard to tell. It's been a year now and the progress has been amazing! Although still with sensitivities at times, our daughter can wear pants and socks and now quickly changes her socks and shoes without difficulty. I found numerous studies that show a potential link between those with severe hypersensitivities as children who later become adults diagnosed with OCD. So for us, treating her for OCD with behavioral cognitive therapy and low dose of Zoloft (even though her symptoms didn't seem to fit a typical OCD type pattern) actually worked wonders for our daughter. I know the idea of meds are scary, I get it. But watching your child suffer and feel uncomfortable in her own skin is far worse. Something worth considering...

Feb 14, 2016
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Somebody please help us
by: Anonymous

Omg I can't believe there is so many people out there feeling the same way as my 10yr old...we have struggled now since she was 2yr old with this sensitivity towards clothing my 10yr old is now on her 4th week of no school because she can't tolerate anything on her legs OT professional told me to massage her legs before trying to put some sort of trousers on but this is not helping...we are now being taken to court by the council for my daughter missing so much school we are also on a waiting list for autism but this is a 2yr wait please has anybody got any solutions to get clothing on the bottom half of my little girl feel like we are all being punished for something that is totally out of our hands.

Dec 29, 2015
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Any suggestions?
by: Anonymous

I haven't worn underwear in years and am much more comfortable without them, and 2 years ago I stopped wearing socks, much better without them too, thank god for Ugg boots! I'm 52 and work full time. As I get older I'm finding it difficult to get thru my work day without wanting to take off my shoes or the rest of my close for that matter, it drives me crazy and I don't know what to do about it other than to move to a nudist colony. Any suggestions?

Dec 26, 2015
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Boy's/Men's boxer briefs!
by: Anonymous

The kind made from a soft cotton. Im 24 and i NEVER wear panties. I feel like i cant breathe and my lady bits feel the same way. Theyre still tight enough to feel protected but theyre not all up in your business and they wont ride up due to the length.Maybe even try a size big if she really dislikes the hugging. I would literally cry and have outbursts of anger though out the day because I was so. Uncomfortable. Then at 12 I found boxers and my life changed for the better. Now my fave are the boxer briefs because they're extra long and they are a lot less bulky under clothes.

Dec 16, 2015
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Undies, socks, jeans... oh my!
by: My daughter, too

My youngest hates underwear, seams, and jean material. We laid down the rule that she must wear underwear. That's my only big rule. I pay more than my own undies budget for underwear that doesn't have any elastic and only a cotton waistband, kind of like boys boxers. They have solved our undies issues for the most part.

I don't buy clothes without her trying them on first, since I never know when a certain seam will drive her crazy. The softest dress with a loose seam around the waist might seem smooth to me, but drive her crazy. She loves cute yoga pants, dresses, and we've found some brands make small seams. When we find a shirt she loves, we buy every color!

So, I have 1 clothes rule that is non-negotiable, but everything else is what she finds acceptable against her skin. We all have our crosses to bear in life!

Oh, and shoes... she spent 2 years in Crocs until we discovered that she likes lined mocasins and furry boots this year. :)

Dec 12, 2015
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Clothing Sensitivity
by: Debbie

I am 62 and am getting worse. I've had sensitivity to clothing all of my life. I will buy the softest clothes. They usually sit in my closet for years before I will put any of them on. I feel every stitch and cannot stand the cloth touching my neck or collar bone. I can't stand the feel of my hair touching those areas either. New, soft sheets still feel itchy, and I'll put an old sheet on and then a layer using the new sheet. I shake watching stars on tv wearing itchy clothing. In cold weather, I cringe knowing I need to button up. Even t-shirts make me shake. I had hoped to outgrow this, but it's only gotten worse. I would love it if there was a remedy.

Nov 30, 2015
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Trying To Create Comfort
by: Anonymous

Hello Everyone,
I am an underwear/lingerie designer and I am currently working on a line of garments that are not only visually pleasing but also comfortable for individuals with skin sensitivities. I believe that everyone deserves to feel comfortable and to feel great everyday. Please let me know if any of you would be interested in such a line of undergarments.

Nov 29, 2015
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So glad I found this
by: Anonymous

I am glad I found this my daughter is six.She is obsessed with wiping herself when been to toilet.Her socks has to be pulled right up she hates the seam,she cuts tags out of trousers,won't wear pants with trousers or tights says they hurt,I have to buy 9 to 10 pants to wear with skirts.Her trousers cannot be on her waste she pulls them right down.She can't wear anything to bed and mire often than not naked all the time in my house.

Nov 04, 2015
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autistic adult
by: Crow

hello, i am a 20 year old autistic adult. i have struggled with sensory processing disorder, which often accompanies autism, for my whole life.

my parents were extremely intolerant. would just physically force me into clothing, make fun of me and call me a crybaby, take me to school naked as a shock treatment. not trying to understand your children is disgusting. not caring if they are comfortable is horrid.

there are some clothing lines designed for autistic people and children, you can look around online. my best idea has been thrift store clothing, which is usually softer from wear. i also wear a lot of oversized clothing. i walk down the rack trailing my hand along it, and i grab everything soft i feel. my outfit mainly consists of drop-crotch pants (sometimes called harem pants, meditation pants), leggings and yoga pants, sweaters and hoodies, oversize tank tops and t shirts. i often get stuck wearing the same outfit for a week or more because i'm so happy to have found something comfortable.

my best routine is to be showered and moisturized, this reduces any itch from clothing. i really hope you have shown your children some trust and respect. i am a 20 year old adult and i haven't spoken to my parents in over 2 years because they were unsupportive, ableist, sanist, abrasive, abusive, whatever you want to call it, of my autism.please develop an understanding bond with your child before it's too late.

Oct 11, 2015
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CLOTHES SENSITIVITY
by: PAT T

I HAVE HAD CLOTHES SENSITIVITY ALL MY LIFE (I AM 70 !) THE WORST IS THE WAIST--HELPS TO FIND LOW-RISE JEANS THAT DON'T SIT RIGHT AT WAIST. AND BIG OLD T-SHIRTS THAT HAVE BEEN WASHED A HUNDRED TIMES.
AND IT IS GENETIC -- MY MOM HAD THE SAME THING. IT IS A WRETCHED WAY TO LIVE!

Aug 18, 2015
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Bad Luck
by: Anonymous

Unfortunately it, for the most part is not in their heads. From the earliest age, I remember fighting my mum to distraction, as she tried to dress me. It was miserable to wear clothes that itch. It is not OCD. It is a sensitivity issue with the skin and fabric. And it is torturous.

All though it gets less sensitive with age, but by no means goes away. I am 50 now, and still have a major problem wearing certain clothes. Especially like Blue Jeans. During High school I could not wear the uniform pants against my skin as they were some kind of nylon. So for 5 years I had to wear a very soft pair of jeans underneath. And make sure no one found out, as they would make fun of me.

For PE I would quickly take jeans off 5 min before in private and bare the uncomfortable feeling till I could change into PE clothes in the changing rooms. And then repeat to put them on again. Sucks. Temperature makes it worse, probably because of sweat. And god forbid, getting caught in the rain. I watch movies where people in suits get soaked and it just gives me the creeps thinking about me in that situation. It changed what I did with my life.

I wanted (when Young) to join the Army and the Police. But did not because would have to wear their clothes. In 50 years I have not found any answers. But I am sure it is aggravated by our polluted surrounding and the chemicals in our food and clothes. But most is probably just genetics. Perhaps issues with the hairs on our skin. As the feeling we all feel seem to be like little creatures playing with each and every hair. Legs for me are the worst. My body and arms, although sensitive, are manageable.

I looked up this site because I need a Tuxedo. And finding one that is soft, will probably cost 5K, Which I would never pay. So have to get a cheap one and wear soft clothes underneath.

Just to point out how bad it is. I went to pick up my uniform for the Holiday Inn years ago. And we had to pick our own and try the fit. From about 15 minutes of trying pairs of new pants on, I was shivering all the way home (30 mins away) until I could shower, whatever crap was on my legs. My mother in law, made some soft cotton inserts so I could wear them. I feel for all of you with this problem. And Mums, Dads it is maddening, but be compassionate.Cause it is a real issue.

Jun 26, 2015
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PLEASE HELP! I NEED A SOLUTION!!!!
by: Mira

Ok so, I'm 12 and a half years old and I have been dealing with this itchy clothes problem ever since I can remember. It is literally my worst problem I have in life. It's absolutely awful. I can't wear jeans, shirts with printing on them (I have to wear a tank under), 1 piece swimsuits and much much more. I don't have a problem very much with tags and underwear but I still do. I also have a little problem with some sheets, blankets, rugs and carpets! The clothes don't feel exactly itchy to me, it's sort of a tingly feeling on my skin. I quit ballay (because of the tights), gymnastics (because of the leatard) and soccer (because of the high socks). I live in northern Michigan so it's cold here most of the time so that means that I have to wear pants and long sleeve stuff which is horrible. I seriously want to move somewhere where it's always warm just because of this problem. It makes me not want to go to school, quite a few times I've almost went homeschooled because of this. In the summer I'm pretty much fine because I can where shorts and tank tops or whatever. I really need help with this problem because it's prety much controlling my life's. Please help!

Jun 12, 2015
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To: Itchy spotty skin.
by: Anonymous

I have had the same problem for four years now. Try two tsp of apple cyder vinniger a day and use real soap not beauty bars. Good luck!

May 27, 2015
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Socks
by: Anonymous

Hey all try smart knit sensory socks they are fantastic no Seam at all !! Flat seam toe socks are good but these have not a seam at all ! They go in length not shoes size so the larger the sock the longer they are no heal !

May 09, 2015
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itchy spotty skin
by: An64 yrold ladyonymous

I can relate to the clothes stories, but mine is mostly on spots of rash on my body for 5 months now. have to wear shirts inside out, no bras, no underwear with elastic around leg holes. pants inside out because the seams itch . try skirts and the front moves on top of my knees as I walk. so cant wear for long. sometimes I just cut a hole in middle of a sheet and put over head like a poncho. they think I have eczema , and lotions help, but never goes away. using steroid cream will diminish rash, but a week later it comes back.

May 05, 2015
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For Sara
by: Anonymous

To Sara,
Thank you so much for posting! As a parent of a daughter who has these sensitivities it is so helpful to hear from someone who has actually experienced it first hand. Interestingly, all of the suggestions you made also have helped my daughter through the years. I can't tell you how many Hershey's chocolate bars have gotten us through the dreaded morning routine of getting dressed! But no kidding, it helped!! And trying to get her to find something to wear that "feels right" when she's hungry, forget about it! I am curious to know if you continue to have these sensitivities now in your 20's or if you have any additional struggles such as OCD? Your input is most valuable! Thank you!

May 05, 2015
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Clothing sensitivity From someone who's been through it.
by: Sara

Hi

My name is Sara, I am 24 years old. I have some advice, from personal experience. When I was younger starting at at 3 onwards knicker ( underwear) socks, jeans, labels in clothes, getting my hair cut and wearing said clothes afterwards was unbearable. It never produced rashes and the likes but felt like someone was running their hands and lightly tickling my skin till it became irritated.

Omg getting dressed in the morning, my mum and dad must of bought every pair of underwear around, and some days they would be great other days they would fee like hell for no reason.

Recommendation:

Clothing, try putting your kid in the tights, underwear, jeans, the night before and ask them to sleep in them, usually once they have awoken the fabric is no longer a irritant to the child's skin ( for the day, or period it is on the child) and will mean a easier morning.

FOOD I can't state it more, when I had issues the fuller I was the easier I was able to cope with the issues

When applying socks, after putting them on, rubb their feet with strong pressure up and down before placing foot in shoe, usually a minute hard rub would help me as I would of concentrated on the sensation of the foot massage and not the sensation of the sock material. And then tie shoes quickly while sensation is still fresh in the Childs mind, and tie them tightly as possible as that prevents any sock material from the ankle slipping down and bunching or moving out of place.

Chocolate - sounds dumb but anything with endorphins realise helps override the sensitivity,

Avoid light touches in the morning or before getting kid changed as that triggeres the sensitivity and makes the child alert for other irritants.

Hope this helps.

Feb 10, 2015
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3 1/2 Year Old Girl
by: Valerie

Fellow mommies, it's such a relief to find this page! My daughter is 3 1/2. She's always had problems with shoes, socks and tags. As of yesterday, she suddenly hates underwear and pants. She's a very quiet, kind and gentle little girl. However, when she's wearing something she finds uncomfortable, she will cry and scream until she can tear it off. I've had severe tactile sensitivity and OCD since I was a child, so I understand everything she's feeling. Right now I'm letting her run around the house in nothing but a tshirt, but that won't fly when it's time to leave the house. Not quite sure what to do! I'm grateful to find this page and fellow parents who are struggling through the same problems.

Jan 08, 2015
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stay strong
by: Anonymous

HI everyone the only thing I can say to your is stick to you guns. Don't let them change a million times a day. Once in the morning, once in the evening for pj's. you need to show the kids that nothing will happen if they don't change their clothes. We have been pretty tough when it come to this sort of stuff. I know it breaks your heart, I know its hard to see but it will get better. They will soon grow out of it and you will forget that any of it even happened. I have one that has the issues with clothes, and one with mild OCD. Trust me when I tell you I know what you are going thru. Stay strong. It will get better

Jan 08, 2015
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what has worked for us...
by: Jen

Hi all! I posted back in April this year about my daughter who has had this struggle for the past 2 years. My husband and I are both Physical Therapists and although I do strongly agree that she has sensory issues/tactile defensiveness, She was also diagnosed with OCD/anxiety. This has been an ongoing struggle for me wondering..is the OCD/anxiety a result of her trying to cope with the sensory issues? At the neurobiological level are they somehow related? Which diagnosis should we be treating?

After 2 years of watching our beautiful daughter struggle and as parents, feeling like we were walking on eggshells to help her, we finally took her to a pediatric behavioral MD who strongly recommended a very low dose of Zoloft in conjunction with Psychological/behavioral therapy for treatment of OCD. I was totally against medication because I wasn't convinced this was her root problem. But when your daughter begs for help and and you have tried all other avenues, you say "Ok" we have to try. Well, all I can say is that she is still my same wonderful, sweet, loving daughter, but she can now get dressed without anxiety, she hops on the bus every morning at 7 AM excited about her day. Yes, I may have to tie her shoes 2 or 3 times (max) to suit her taste, but that's it.

She changes and wears different shirts, skirts and underwear all the time now. If she gets frustrated that things don't "feel right" she will voice it and then move on..no more anxiety.

I know that medication is not a consideration for many of you, and believe me, I totally understand. But for us, it has worked amazingly well. Every child is different but I urge you to at least consider the behavioral therapy for teaching your sweet children how to cope with the anxiety that they feel on a daily basis. It helps.

And for what it's worth, a study out of New Zealand found a strong correlation between children with these hypersensitivities who later become adults diagnosed with OCD. For our daughter, treating it as OCD was more effective than treatments for sensory processing disorder (brushing, joint compressions,etc..)

Anyway, hope this helps. It is just such a joy and a relief to see our daughter happy and healthy! I will continue to give updates as time passes and I hope this post is somehow helpful to you all.

Jan 08, 2015
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highly sensitive to clothing.
by: karen s

Hi, my 5 year old daughter has always been selective about clothing but then this summer suddenly developed an anti clothing campaign and finds it very distressing to wear anything.

I managed to find a web site shop called sensory smart where you can buy seamless soft clothing.She only agreed to have the socks and pants, but its progress and they are lovely. Although a bit pricey, because of the way they are made I imagine the clothing will kind of grow with the child.

When we first bought the underwear she was too stressed out to even try them on so we dressed her when she was asleep and that worked.
Most of the time she will only wear soft cotton pajamas and the occasional soft item of clothing we come across in our searches when shopping.oh and she would only wear flip flops for ages and now soft slippers .....This is what she wears for school too. They are understanding to a degree, although we do get a little attitude of "really??? that child is controlling you!"
Today I feel sad about it and worry how long it will go on for.It does make it difficult to fit in.

No other symptoms are present that I know of. Is this something that will go away or should we be getting professionals involved??

Jan 06, 2015
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Thank god I'm not alone
by: Sarah

Can't believe I may have found the answer to my 7 yr old daughters problem,who has had this problem with clothes since the age of 3,everybody's comments have been so helpful as I never new spd existed. I shall be deffinately seeing a doctor about this. Thanks so much

Dec 17, 2014
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Can't tolerate knickers and socks
by: Anonymous

I'm so relieved to find this website with so many accounts of other parents going through the same thing as us. My daughter is 4 and has always been sensitive to her clothing but never to the point where it's been unmanageable , however for the past 6 months the problem has definitely been getting worse. It started with only wearing certain pairs of knickers and socks to rejecting avery pair and now it seems that every pair of leggings or joggers that we have are uncomfortable. Before I googled these symptoms and discovered this site I assumed this behaviour was an attempt to control situations like maybe not wanting to go to nursery so we'd have a battle every morning, I actually used to wake up and dread the process of dressing and by the time we arrived at the school gates the stress levels were through the roof. I want my daughter to be comfortable in her clothing but I also can't help thinking that the more comfortable the clothing the worse the situation will become- there are some days now where she will only wear the thinnest pyjama bottoms to nursery and it's really cold out at the moment. She'd rather freeze than wear a warm coat. She will be starting school in January, I've tried to explain the situation to the teachers at the school but can't help sensing that I'm being judged as a 'soft' parent. I'm hoping school might be the turning point in our situation. Does it get easier?

Oct 25, 2014
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Please Help!
by: Vianca G

Hi - I have to say that reading all these comments has in a way calmed me down but has also brought me to Tears. My daughter is 4 years old and just within the last 2 weeks has been doing odd things with her clothing, behavior tantrums and just not knowing how she will be everyday frightens me. That is not my little girl. - it all started with pulling up her pants all tge way to the middle off her stomach, always saying that her pants were falling or that they were too big. Trying to get her to school was a screaming battle and it just freaked me out that she was all of a sudden doing this over clothes. So now she is out of school and home with me and honestly I have never seen this behavior in her until she began pre-k in September. Now at home she comes to me and says these are bothering me and I dont know if I should let her change everytime or stand my ground. She tried to wear underwear and pants today and kept grabbing her croth saying that she had peed and she was wet -but her underwear was dry and just like that she began to take them off- please anyone who has tips or anything please email me at viancagg@yahoo.com I am in tears everday watching my daughter suffer, her twin brother is doing great but she is slowly fading- Thank you all

Sep 03, 2014
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OMG some answers this is 'real'
by: Teagan

My daughter will be 4 in December 2014 and for as long as I can remember she has said everything is itchy, scratchy, tight too many wrinkles. I have the hardest time trying to dress her, as I read in some comments we do the same of going through all her clothes but nothing feels ok, she runs around in certain nikkers that she 'likes' for that day. She can't sleep with pjs on! Every tag has been cut off her clothing she does wear when we go out! I try to stay home as much as I can so I don't have to argue to put clothes on. I am so glad it's not just is, here I was thinking she was just being naughty and getting away with everything. These comments have helped me to understand this is a REAL THING.

Aug 22, 2014
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Itchy clothes
by: Anonymous

My 7 year old suddenly says her shirts are itchy on her back and stomach. she went through all of her shirts this morning before finally settling on one that "would have to do". She has to wear a camisole under any shirts that have printing or stitching on the front because they itch, and of course, it must be tagless. She also has a problem with shoes. She says all of her shoes have wrinkles in the bottom that bother her feet. Some of these, I have solved by removing the piece inside the bottom of the shoe and gluing in a piece of felt. So far so good!
She has been wearing Fruit of the Loom boyshort panties with success. No binding around the leg and the waistband fits at the hip.

Jul 31, 2014
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No close fitting clothing
by: Anonymous

My 10 year old has extreme sensitivity to close fitting clothes. She would not wear tights, avoids long pants, jeans, knee high socks etc. She is also a dancer, and now cannot take ballet because tights are unbearable. I tried all the softest tights, and every suggestion given by others. Now her school wants the girls from Grade 6 up to wear only tights or knee high socks. That is impossible for her. Maybe I will have to send her to a school that has no uniform.

I am amazed to see all your comments about the same issues with your children. I thought her situation was unique as I never met another child with the problem.

Thanks everyone for sharing.

Jul 22, 2014
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Please someone help
by: Anonymous

I'm eighteen years old and I CAN'T wear pants. Jeans are literal torture to wear, they're uncomfortable and itchy and I want to rip my legs off. Only some pairs of corduroy pants are tolerable, but I'm so sick of not being able to wear anything other than shorts. Does anyone know of any place that sells comfortable pants? All the websites I find are for children. Please help. Thanks, I really appreciate it.

Jul 19, 2014
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Help
by: Anonymous

Omg!! Im not alone! We have sooo many issues. The biggest one is her underwear and pants. She wears them but is CONSTANTLY fidgiting w her croch and insists on wearing them so low that you see her butt crack. Its horrible. Even pulling them down basically to sit on a chair. Ugh. She cant go through life this way. I dont know what to do!!!!

Apr 23, 2014
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Hang in there..,it can get better!
by: Jen

My daughter has had this issue for just over a year. Her clothing aversion came on suddenly the day of her 5th birthday. All I can say is that we are finally in a good place. It's manageable now. I honestly was getting concerned that I would never see this day. We tried OT for sensory integration and Psychologist for possible OCD and each taught us valuable skills on how to help her manage her symptoms. I truly believe her greatest strides came when I started to validate her feelings that these things didn't "feel right" to her and to let her know that she wasn't the only one going through this. Hard as it was and still is at times, the more relaxed I am and the more control she has over her clothing and other things the better off she is. I no longer make a big deal over it. If she wears the same outfit to school every single day and she's comfortable, so be it. Focus on your child's strengths as much as possible...for your own sake as much as your child's. I noticed a drastic improvement when I started giving her an earlier bedtime. When she is overtired or sick her sensory issues and "OCD?" rituals resurface but nothing like they were in the beginning. There is hope. Keep loving and supporting your kids. They don't want to be this way. And in our case things have drastically improved!!! Good luck :)

Apr 22, 2014
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My eight year old
by: FR

My daughter has huge issues with clothes, sunscreen, cream etc.. Doesnt like to feel it on her skin. She wears tights and the same shirt over and over again. Drive us nuts. Recently we discovered that she rolls her undies down so that it doesnt touch her waist. What can be done about this? I buy her new clothes that she loves, but wont wear. I have tried everything! HELP!

Mar 21, 2014
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Underwear for Kids with Sensitive Skin
by: Liz Smith

I recently posted on this issue on luckyandme.com. Here's the URL for the posting: http://www.luckyandme.com/raising-a-sensory-smart-child/ Many moms have found that Lucky and Me's tag-free underwear with soft fabrics and smooth seams are perfect for their sensitive kids.

Mar 19, 2014
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irritating clothes
by: Anonymous

hi,

thank god I am not on my own, my 4 year old most days finds something wrong with her clothes, especially underware and socks, she complaints that her sock tickle her, and that her pants are annoying, somedays she has just started to refuse to wear pants so I took her into nurserys and made them aware of this, but this morning I have been pulled up on it and they have made me feel like a bad mum, she said that basically I must ensure that she wears pants? but why? I personally feel that she will get fed up and realise that's its more comfortable to wear pants than go with out. I also feel that some of the nursery staff have got issue I got into trouble the other day because my daughter mentioned she had seen two boys kissing, again I got into trouble for letting her see it, bearing in mind that I don't know where she saw this happen, I did ask her and she said outside ( we have to travel in the city everyday, so I guess because we now live in an open society and this is just normal) I don't see how this is a problem. how can I approach this situation thank you

Jan 23, 2014
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Some ideas for you
by: Pumpkin

Hi all. I am an adult and I get very irritated by labels and waistbands etc. I have been this way as long as I can remember. My daughter is 4 and is also label sensitive.

Here is my main tip: let your child wear vests and pants inside put. Labels and seams stay away from the skin - no one sees it so its all good. Even if your child is past the vest stage an insideout tshirt under a sweatshirt or school shirt will work just as well.

Also for the girls with pants issue have you tried boys seamless boxer shorts? No tight crotch area, elastic round legs etc and the elastic can sit across the hips rather than tummy or waist.

Jan 07, 2014
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Daughter at age 18 still having problems
by: Shirley

This story brought back Nightmares of my daughter, she is now 18 and she still has issues. Some days are better than others. The clothing sensitivity has calmed down or should I say she has learned what will work and what won't, that brings her to a few outfits that work. Her biggest problem is underwear to this day! I want to blunt here so all you moms might understand what your little ones are going thu. Crystal has explained to me in embarrassing detail what she "feels" She says her privet area always feels too wet. She will go thu a whole roll of toilet paper each time she pees. She knows she rubs her self raw! There was a time she tried powder to feel dryer and went nuts with it to the point of causing herself an asthma problem! Then she said she has to make sure that all of the folds of the skin lay just right or she goes crazy! I can't imagine feeling every detail like that. Yes she still gets angry and screams at me. But I have learned what the issues are now where when she was little I had no idea what was wrong! I don't know what to do to help her so she's not so sensitive in that area. Any ideas?

Jan 07, 2014
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Adult hypersensitivity
by: Anonymous

Whoever commented last, holy crap, I feel your pain. This is getting unbearable! I wish I could just wear normal pants like everyone else, gosh how much easier life would be. Any ideas? Right now I'm wearing stretchy jeans but the waist is STILL uncomfortable.

Dec 28, 2013
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adult hypersensitivity to jeans
by: Anonymous

Anyone have extreme sensitivity to jeans. Ive been like this for as long as I can remember ans usually just found ways to get around it.ex: sweats etc. Now as an adult im so sick of not being able to dress like everyone else... has anyone found any type of jeans that they could actually wear

Dec 12, 2013
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I know what you are going through, My 4 yr old gives me a fight every morning to get dressed!!
by: Sabrina

I am so fustrated, and looking online for answers to why my daughter since age 2 has been so stubborn when it comes to getting dressed. She will wear some clothes sometimes, then not like it the next time and refuse to put those same clothes on! Or she will ONLY let me put the same 3 pairs of leggings on her and 2 shirts on her, so I have to constantly keep washing and then sometimes she wont even wear her socks or panties either. She screams and cries to get dressed, I try to be firm and it does not work. I have spanked her and sometimes it would work but then I feel terrible. I do not like to scream or hit, not my style at all. But she has to go to school, and it is so hard to get her to school everyday, sometimes she gets there so late or misses school. I was looking into early intervention, but they observed her in school and said she is ok. It's mostly just with me she has these fits and won't listen or wear what I tell her to. I feel so alone in this situation. my family thinks she is just spoiled.

Oct 24, 2013
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5 year old
by: Anonymous

My 5 year old is having major issues with the panties. I probably have 200 pair of panties that we have bought and tried on that she liked but not say they hurt. Today is the first day I let her go to school commando and her teacher said she was fine. We have scheduled a doctors appointment for next week just to make sure nothing is wrong. I sooo know that my child does not have Austism but am so exhausted on the fighting. Thanks for all the comments because it makes me feel justified and I am going to take a different approach. Thanks again

May 28, 2013
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My 3yr old struggles with clothes, socks, tights and shoes
by: Christa

I've been struggling with my daughter for the past 6 months and after a long time of thinking she's being difficult and going through 'phases' i finally realised i would have to start working with her not against her. She is now 3 years old so can't explain as well as the olders whats bothering her but she absolutely hates wearing any socks or tights, most shoes (barr. crocs and wellies) and now progressed onto clothes, too tight, too small for her, where she will wear something one week, won't the next. Reading all these posts has made me really feel for what she is going through and I hate the continual fight to leave the house every time, it makes us all sad. I'd heard about the seamless socks and generally allow her to go sockless unless in wellies or boots so she doesn't get blisters but is horrible for all of us. I'm going to put out all her clothes with her and go through all the things she will and won't wear and start from there. Thank you everyone.

Jan 21, 2013
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clothes
by: Anonymous

My daughter screams about her clothes everyday.as 4 tops in her wardrobe and 3 trousers and wears them over and over.noone seems to understand she had done this for 2 years.she says her tops are to tight when they are not hates socks and shoes.we battle with her every day.

Nov 07, 2012
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Can TOTALLY Relate
by: Anonymous

I am amazed after reading all of your posts! I am an adult with tactile defensiveness and have been struggling with it since I can remember. As a child, I remember mostly having issues with jeans and socks. If the seams in the jeans were to tight against my crotch it would make me hyperventilate, or if the seams on the sides of the socks would touch and rub against my shoes, I it would mentally drive me insane. Finally, by mother found a brand of socks I could tolerate and stopped buying me jeans.

Now, as an adult, my issues have gotten worse. I have to buy all my pants a size to big. I am most sensitive around my waist. If anything fits to tightly around there, I will actually start to hyperventilate. I also can only wear items that are 100% cotton. Anything else is itchy and makes me want to crawl out of my skin. I have tried several different suggestions from a friend who's an O.T. but nothing has solved the problems. Some days I'm so irritated by the feelings in my body and I want to just stay naked and avoid all people.

Working out, is the only thing that I have found that helps lessen the irritability of my sensory processing disorder. It seems like the endorphins released during high aerobic exercise works best. Today, I avoid tight clothing, exercise daily (I call it my "medication"), and eat as healthy as possible (eating large meals or unhealthy meals makes my sensory issues worse). I would love any suggestions that people have tried that have seemed to work with their children or themselves for that matter. It makes me crazy that I just can't "snap out of it".

Sep 08, 2012
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by: Eliza

Oh my goodness thats my 6 1/2 year old! Its always been an issue! Clothing! Underwear is the worst. They can't be too tight, go over the belly, can't be too big. And even then she complains that they don't feel right. Now that she is older she can elaborate a bit more. She says they feel like they are falling which they aren't! Its such a struggle sometimes. We'll end up being late to functions because she can't get comfortable in her underwear. I always figured she was just being picky.

Then there are her pants, they can't be button up and have to just right or else she complains of the same thing. That they will fall off. Which of course I would never let her wear clothes that will fall off!

Tags? No way! Sequined shirts... uh uh! 100% cotton everything or else she complains that it itches and not just complains but if it doesn't come off immediately she'll throw a fit and try to rip them off.

Socks aren't that big of a deal with her they just have to be one right, like the seam has to align with her toes.

I really think I need to bring this up at her next doc appt. I thought she was just being dramatic... but maybe its something more.

Jul 18, 2012
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Great solution: Undercover Tape
by: Michelle Isrow

Michele and I have developed a product called Undercover tape because our children have had challenges not wanting to wearcertain clothing for years. Please visit us at www.undercovertape.com It's a hypoallergenic, latex free adhesive to cover all those itchy tags, labels and seams that are so bothersome. It's like a bandage for clothes. We hope it can help your families as much as it has helped ours.

May 17, 2012
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Son with same symptoms
by: AL

Hello all,

Read through everyone's stories and wanted to add mine. And how things are progressing.

Had exactly the same problems as everyone. Clothes itching, creasing the wrong way, too tight to loose, wrong colour etc

Until I read this forum it used to make both me and my partner angry and thought it was done to create a fuss. But thanks to you guys I appreciate how hard it is for my son and sympathise with his frustrations.

So I started to reason with him and talk to him like an adult and told him he didn't have to wear anything that hurt. He was grateful, but didn't want to be naked obviously..so we'd chat and he'd try something on and still have a meltdown, but I persisted and continued to tell him I understood. I bought new clothes on a daily basis (1 or 2 items) that nearly all went back . Took him shopping so he could see there wasn't much else to choose - especially if it has to be Ben 10.

Initially he took to wearing the same vest, tshirt, pants and shorts to bed and then continue wearing them the next day too. He's pre School - 4 yrs

One day it made me so sad and frustrated for him that I cried and he'd never seen Dad shed a tear before. Not sure if this had an affect. But I kept persevering and told him that's he should try and 'beat' the clothes and not let them win. This seemed to resonate with him.

We bought him a pair of self fastening shoes like his friend at nursery has and seamless socks from Sensory Smart and at first he'd complain that they itched or dug in. So I would only let him put them on 5 seconds before we left the house and told him as soon as we were outside he would forget about it - which he always did. This really helped and he'd leave them by the door, whip them on and dash out, without complaint.

But I do think the their socks are a good option and definitely helped the situation.

This started to work really well and at first we did it with tshirts and jackets etc as well.

So he's making real improvement and his behavior has improved dramatically too. I think not being understood re: clothing was leading to other problems too.

He's now really improving, and has started to dress himself and not get mad and is open to new clothes..

I found by showing him I understood and that I really wanted to help, made him want to beat the problem too. And that in turn led to him finding his own little coping methods. Like dressing behind the sofa.

Also initially I found distraction TV (Ben 10) worked, I dress him while he was watching and then whip him out the door. But as I say he has improved so much that he now dresses himself.

I hope this helps

Good luck

Feb 15, 2012
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Good changes
by: Anonymous

RE the 8 yr. old girl who would wear NO clothes and had to sleep in a silky sleeping bag: she is now 9+ and wearing "old" boys underwear, jeans, cotton shirts, ballet style wrap-around sweaters and a leotard for dance AND swimming besides a very few loose dresses with no waists or seams. What helped her was some therapy, breathing exercises and her music. She really, really wanted to go to her guitar lessons and violin lessons. Whenever she becomes anxious, she plays (mostly) her violin. Hair brushing is sometimes too hard for her, especially if she is over-tired, but that can be dealt with. Also, she writes and writes - stories and diary-style pages about her feelings and anxieties. There is still concern about her eating habits which vary from day to day as she is very thin, but healthy now. Continual snacking of healthy foods seems to work when she is going through a bad time and dinner type food just doesn't appeal to her. Bread, cheese and apples can get her through a few bad days. So, from a screaming little girl who would NOT put ANY clothes on a little over a year ago, she is now going to school every day and enjoying her life (mostly).

Feb 08, 2012
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Glad we aren't alone!
by: Anonymous

My daughter is 10 years old and has been very sensitive since about age 4 or 5. She was late to school everyday because she would have to arrange her socks in just the way the seams would feel OK. Smart Knit socks don't have any seams, these have been life savers ever since I discovered them! My daughter has an absolutely horrible time with underwear. One style might work for a month, and then she cannot even touch the fabric anymore. Hanna Andersson underwear has flat seams and "good" fabric, for now. It might be worth giving those a try. Good luck!

Jan 14, 2012
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underwear idea
by: Kay

i recently came up with a design of underwear for my granddaughter. And she is wearing underwear now! Find a soft stretchy fabric, would suggest you let the child feel the fabric to make sure they like the way it feels. Using a pair of underwear as a pattern, cut both sides open and lay flat. It will look similar to a Pampers. Lay the cut underwear on the fabric and cut them out, leaving enough that you can adjust and trim off. I also made the leg opening larger so the underwear would be loose are the thighs. Fold up the fabric and sew each side. Have the child try them on until you get them the right fit around the waist. Of course the seams will be on the outside, as many children have problems with seams touching their skin. The fabric I used was a very soft spandex. By using this fabic, there was no need for elastic. Also use high grade, soft thread. Within an hour my daughter and I had made her 5 pairs of underwear.

Nov 29, 2010
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Sharon...first breathe
by: Mary

First and foremost i would like to thank everyone for helping me and my daughter so much, she is doing amazing now (comparatively).

Sharon.... Step away from the situation for a day just forget about it ... i know that sounds ridiculous and impossible but it is not. My ah-ha moment was the day my father wanted to take my daughter and i out for lunch and she through an all out fit hitting me, screaming to the point of almost vomiting,because she had to wear pants (without underwear) my father said that's enough about an hour into it (in his comforting papa voice) -- "mary go outside for 15 mins. - kylie come here" -- he gave her a hug calmed her down and i calmed down. Two things happened I got to rethink the situation (remembering she does not have control of this) and realizing for the first time that everytime she cried it was worse(her senses were heightened by 1000x) and hugs work --not just for comfort but for the input ...

Soooo... I would suggest calling everyday to the OT and asking if they had a cancellation (i did this and it only took a week for the office to finally get sick of me calling and fit us in) ... Also, start running, jumping, push-ups- anything that gives your child "input". keep a calm attitude and voice and our miracle remedy is acknowledging that it doesn't feel good "I know these underwear are uncomfortable hunny, i understand... lets take a deep breath and get through this together." my father has a "magic spray" and amazing hugs for the rare occasion he get her dressed, my husband has a dance party with her for 5 mins. my mother gets her out the door with my 50 lb. almost 4 foot tall 5 and 1/2 year old on her hip bc she found if you get her out and in the car quick enough she gets over it faster ... and I ... MOMMY extrodonair ... I bounce her on my lap and i give her big hugs and i stretch those underwear until they look like they are going to split and sit on them and do everything she has come up with with me to make them feel better, then we run out the door.

NOW>... I know that is a lot but that is the point- it takes a lot and a lot of support and loving people around you and your daughter. you can get through this ... you will get through this. Just listen to your instincts and more importantly listen to your daughter. and dont worry about the latest fashions .. just what is necessary.

good luck and much support. if you still feel lost and found any light in my advice you can email me -- mary032086@yahoo.com -- trust me i understand completely!!!!

Nov 29, 2010
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HELP
by: sharon

I have a 5 year old Daughter in the summer she is happy and content but come the winter she will not wear jumpers, socks, Coats, hats, gloves etc she has been told she has SPD last year but the OT discharged her instead of keeping her under review. Now she has got even worst will not get dressed wants to wear shorts and tee shirts in freezing weather.. Will not leave the house if she can help it.. Keeps shutting doors, hates bumps in my rugs, has to have all my teaspoons by her side with every meal. Is late for school most days as i can get her dressed... I am a prisoner in my own home i know its hard for my daughter, have been to my GP and health visitor and told i have to wait 6 months to be seen.. I cant cope that long and am worried about my daughters health.. We need help in the United Kingdom people really need to know more about this as there is NO support am left to cope alone....

Nov 16, 2010
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NO clothes at all!
by: Anonymous

I have yet to read about a child with SPD who can't wear any clothes most days - some days old PJs without any underwear or socks of course, works. This little 8 yr. old girl cannot go to school; she does her math and writing at home and plays her violin and guitar, which she loves. She is extremely bright, reading at a 13 yr. old level. Problems started when she was 4, but she just didn't wear underwear and wore soft pants and shirts; last month she started screaming that all of her clothes hurt, burned, itched and spent many days naked, not even being able to lie down on a bed or sit on a couch - she sleeps in a silky sleeping bag ON a bed now. It's hard getting her to a drs. as she sobs and writhes until she can get home and be naked.

Oct 13, 2010
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Dont feel so alone now
by: Anonymous

I always knew something wasn't quite right with my daughter and it was only when she was 5 last year she was tested and told she had SPD but touch sensitive area only...

Winter is the worst time of the year for me as she will not wear tights, socks, Shoes or boots or even a coat or anything with long sleeves..
Before i found this site i felt so alone having to cope with a simple thing like dressing my daughter and the temper tantrums i have to deal with its very hard when you have no support and other people dont understand what SPD is? More needs to be done for people to understand what us and the children with SPD live with everyday.

Sep 10, 2010
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not alone
by: Anonymous

All of these comments are so familiar! My daughter started complaining about socks/shoes and pants when she first could speak. She is almost 5yrs now and the daily battle continues. But in the last 3 years her tactile defensiveness has gotten worse. She will only wear dresses. But only certain dresses...it's all about the texture! Over this summer, her bathing suits and underwear became new obstacles. I would love to let her go cammando, except she only wears dresses! YIKES! Not an option for us :(

She also has issues with food/ getting her hands wet/ washing her face/ brushing her hair/etc....

She does go to OT and the theraplay does help! Giving her "input" when she needs it is so important too. I've learned so much about how to help her when she seems stressed/overwhelmed. Like a BIG bear hug can calm her when she's at the end of that nasty tantrum because she can't pick which pair of shoes because they ALL BOTHER HER!!! It you haven't found a GREAT occupational therapist who understands SPD....look for one! It can help you find some sanity in your morning routine! I know it has helped ours. (but there still are bad days!)

Sep 02, 2010
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7 year old daughter
by: Anonymous

Hi Have i have had this problem with my daughter since she was 3 she is now 7 and still having the problems i also feel there is no one interested in helping you and as a family we seem to be tearing apart at the seems with this problem. I let my daughter go comando at 4 years old under instructions of my health visitor as she said it was a phase but would not advise it as you cannot go back years later which we are experiencing my daughter hates pants, sock, trousers, shoes and tight tops nearly everything and her moods are getting out of control she goes to school every morning crying along with myself going to work as i have to force a school uniform on her even though i let her go without her tie etc. AARGGGGGGHHHHHH just feel like screaming most days.

Apr 21, 2010
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clothing sensitivity
by: Anonymous

I am aware of a case of a patient who has severe sensitivity to clothing and what has helped her the most is actually seeing an allergist and getting biofeedback. She cannot wear clothes that are too tight and cannot stand elastic waistbands or anything tight on her skin. The difference with the allergy treatments as well as the biofeedback has been amazing.

Apr 13, 2010
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not alone
by: Anonymous

Great to hear we're not alone!

Most sites I found about sensory issues were about children with other diagnoses like autism, etc.

My DD just turned 4, and she has absolutely no developmental issues whatsoever.

Since she was about 18 mths old she's had sensory issues with clothing on and off. We are now experiencing a spike.

At 18 mths I noticed the first sign when all of a sudden she wouldn't wear footed pajamas. I actually cut all of the feet of of them.

The winter this year wasn't bad (as long as she was wearing comfy cotton), but now her issues are back in full effect.

She won't wear leotards, some underwear, most pants, a long sleeved shirt with a jacket, etc.

I have learned to let it go and that it's okay for her not to wear socks or underwear, etc. I live in Canada though, and it gets mighty cold here, so it's a challenge when she really should be wearing more clothes then she does to stay warm.

Have your children been officially diagnosed, and has anyone done brushing therapy? If so, do you notice a difference?

Apr 09, 2010
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clothes
by: Anonymous

Yes, my children go without underpants. My five year old wears them to kindergarten, finally, but takes them off the minute he walks in the door. I found underpants for boys and girls that have covered elastic, the elastic drove them crazy.

Try only cotton jersey clothes, soft t shirts, etc.

Good luck. It gets better.

Apr 07, 2010
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This may help
by: Steven Michaelis

There is more and more research that links tactile and other sensory sensitivities to poor communication and synchronisation between the two brain halves. An effective way of improving the processing functions in the brain is to listen to specially altered sound or music through headphones as pioneered by Dr. Alfred Tomatis (Tomatis method) and Dr. Guy BĂ©rard (Auditory Integration Training - AIT).

Now there is a new Sound Therapy Programme which has been specifically developed with the aim to improve sensory processing, interhemispheric integration and cognitive functioning and it is entirely free to download and use at home. It has helped many children and adults with a wide range of learning and developmental difficulties, ranging from dyslexia, dyspraxia and attention deficit/hyperactivity disorder to sensory processing disorders and autism. It is not a cure or medical intervention, but a structured training programme that can help alleviate some of the debilitating effects that these conditions can have on speech and physical ability, daily behaviour, emotional well-being and educational or work performance.

Check out the Free Sound Therapy Home Programme from Sensory Activation Solutions. There is no catch, it's absolutely free and most importantly often effective. Find it at: http://www.uk.sascentre.com/uk_free.html.

Apr 06, 2010
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rash swim shirts
by: bridget

My son had a really hard time in preschool. But those rash guard swim shirts seem to work good for him. He also wore his swim vest many times to school. Many days he does not wear underwear or socks. Another blessing is hand me downs or clothes from the goodwill. They are already soft and comfy.

Hope that helps.

Apr 06, 2010
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What we do with my daughter for clothes sensitivity
by: DebbieKinIL

My DD is now 11 and is very clothes sensitive, especially around her waist.

Here's somethings that we do:

- identify what areas that are most sensitive, then shop for clothes that are acceptable
- shop for clothes without tags (or remove tags), wear sock inside out, wash clothes many times to stretch and soften, (I now line dry all her stuff)- stretch comfy clothes etc.
- desensitize to clothes by using habitation- my DD must wear "new" clothes 3 times for periods of 10-30 minutes before the price tags come off- If she cannot do this successfully, the clothes go back and we try again. Often my DD would cry on the first wearing- be prepared. If the clothes can be worn then it just takes time. We try to buy many items of the clothes she can wear. Yeah, I know it's hard with your DD growing.
-my DD wears a leotard for underwear- this helps- before we found out about wearing leotards- underwear was the biggest problem- we could not get them high enough to cover her entire waist- this was awful!! She cut and stretched the high tops underwear and tried to go without or just wear the only "one" pair that felt right-
- we get up really early to allow extra time for putting on clothes
- watch the weather for dramatic changes in pressure fronts- lo pressure seems to increase sensitivity
- allow your daughter to relax with a comfy article of clothing- like a loose fitting nightgown, when she is having a rough day. On tough days my DD changes out of her clothes into a night gown, when she comes home from school.
- We brush before she gets dressed and at night
- also let the pre school know about her SPD and that your DD may be late occasionally due to this.

Yes, even at age 11, my DD often has "clothes explosions" on her bad days.

I know that I can not help her, and only she has to work through these times on her own. We have been late to school only a few times, because she needed extra time to desensitize to clothes over the past 2 years.

ON very bad days, my DD has a tantrum (tries to hit me and gets physical etc) then, she calms down and works to get through it.

I let her try on several clothes until she gets the right one- again only she can work her way through it.

Any clothes thrown about (and sometimes she tries to destroy them by ripping them-s nothing comes from this btw) my DD has to put away AFTER school.

I talk to her when she is calm to try to see what can be done better the next time and to understand what she is feeling on her bad days.

I Hope that some of this helps.

Apr 05, 2010
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feeling fabric helps
by: mary

I can appreciate your situation. My 5 year old son is not nearly that sensitive, but I have noticed that when I take him to a fabric store, he wants to feel all of the yarns. It taught me something. Have you considered taking your daughter to a fabric store, (on a day when you feel strong enough for the experience:)), and together, the both of you feel several kinds of fabric? Ask her how they feel, let her hold them against her body. Then, you can purchase small amounts of the fabric for a "test drive" and let her drag them around at home. My son is never separated from a soft throw that I bought at Joann's a few years ago.

If you don't sew, it will likely be worth hiring someone to make simple items for you daughter to wear, based on her choices. Be creative, and good luck!!

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