Touching other peoples hair.

A 5 year old boy is always touching the girls hair in his kindergarten class,he twirls,rubs,and spells their hair even after being told it's inappropriate to be touching other people without permission.Is this something to be concerned about? Is he lacking something? Suggestions please.

Comments for Touching other peoples hair.

Average Rating starstarstarstarstar

Click here to add your own comments

Mar 03, 2016
Rating
starstarstarstarstar
High school student is touching others' hair
by: Anonymous

A new student in our school who has autism is touching other people's hair as well as simply getting too physically close to people and touching them without any reason to. I have addressed it when I've seen it. I am a para in the classroom. The teacher either hasn't seen it happen but has been told by more than one person that it is happening.

What bothers me about it is that if you need sensory input there are a million and one things you could touch without involving another person.
Keep a rabbit's foot in your pocket, those were popular many years ago, keep a smooth stone or a coin in your pocket. The logic does not hold up that anyone would need to touch someone's hair to get more sensory input in their lives. This may begin as a habit, but it is inexcusable that it has continued. To be a part of the world and be accepted, there are certain things you must do and respecting another person's right NOT to be touched without permission is one of them. I think we have lost sight of simply respecting that others have rights too. And if someone has an impulse to touch others that cannot be controlled then you should expect future problems with the law. This is not just a matter of manners. Nor does society need to become more sensitive to your issue in order to understand it. Some things are just wrong.

Aug 13, 2015
Rating
starstarstarstar
Autism and touching other people's hair
by: Joseph Lambert

Hello, my name is Joseph Lambert. I am a 21 year old man who has autism. Since middle school, I have also been having problems with trying to control my problem of touching other people's hair. I have touched other girls a lot of times in high school and at my summer camp. In order to make sure the hair-touching does not occur permanently, my psychologist presented me with a lot of self-control strategies. However, even though these strategies have made me cut down on touching other people's hair, it has still not eliminated the problem in its entirety. Does anyone have any strategies that can eliminate this problem at this age?

Mar 08, 2011
Rating
starstarstarstarstar
my son has always done this
by: Anonymous

My son has SPD, he's 4, and he has always loved to touch girls hair from the time he was a baby. He still will sit and touch mine. i have to leave his hair longer on the top because he plays with his own hair while he is falling asleep.

Feb 28, 2010
Rating
starstarstarstarstar
Touching hair
by: Anonymous

I have a 4 year old student who was into touching the girls' hair in the beginning of the school year. We used our rule (Hands and body to yourself, sung to "head, shoulders, knees and toes") to teach him to keep his hands to himself, and of course the rule applied to everyone. We also worked with his parents and nanny to keep reminding him that touching was only by permission. And the old, "would you like someone to do that to you without asking?" He is doing much better, now, and his self-esteem is still rock-solid.

Feb 26, 2010
Rating
starstarstarstarstar
Hi.
by: Anonymous

I think that is crazy that it is such a big deal that he's touching people's hair. How about if you allow him to touch only YOUR hair, what damage can he do to your hair? Just explain to him that it can get him in trouble if he touches stranger's hair or body in any way and just make a deal with him, the other post is very good, reward him for keeping a good habit of not touching his sister's hair and the other people except you. If he is told the reasons, maybe it will be less confusing and he will not feel so hurt if you tell him that he can caress your hair...because you are his Mom...

I have a daughter, I would never be offended or angered if a boy would touch her hair, as long as she wouldn't mind. I think that men in general like women's hair, because it is soft, long, smells good etc. I really feel for him, people are so god at making even little boys feel like pervs.

Feb 26, 2010
Rating
starstarstarstarstar
Touching hairs
by: Anonymous

Hello,

My son is 2 and 10 months old. He have a very bad habit of touching my girls hair and my hair too. He is constant touching my hair even at night. He haven't started school yet. I am a little worried if he started school and start touching little girls hair. I know the teacher will complain about that. Maybe you could tell your son or explain to him about touching other girls hair in school is not right. Find appropriate way to explain to your 5 years old son about not allow to touch girls hair in school and reward him for that.

Click here to add your own comments

Join in and write your own page! It's easy to do. How? Simply click here to return to The SPD Q & A.