How Three Moms Explain SPD To Their Children

Katrina writes:

When my daughter was just turning 7 she had been going to occupational therapy for a couple of weeks.

We just told her at the time that she was going to play.  Well she’s my child of ‘1000’ questions and that explanation didn’t last long.  We sat down and I told her that we had just found out why she was feeling so mad and sad all of the time.  That she had something called Sensory Processing Disorder.  This was followed by a confused look of course.

My 7 year old daughter is sensory-defensive so I told her that her body is fine and her brain is fine--they just don't talk well together. So when someone brushes against her, her body sends the message that she has been hit so her brain tells her to be angry or hurt.  I told her that brushing, jumping, swinging, etc helps her body to talk to her brain better.

I read the book called "The Goodenoughs Get in Sync: 5 Family Members Overcome their Special Sensory Issues" to her and my 3 year old.  It's a story about a whole family that has SPD. Each person in the family has a different form. I had to improvise on some of the technical stuff but the story is good.  As I read,  I would point out similarities between them and some of the characters.  I think it helped her to see that others go through this too.  We also talked about our own little issues with things that bothered us and what we do to make it better.

Her 3 year sister was too young to understand everything so I just said, "Ella loves you but she doesn't want hugs today so throw her a hug instead".

We had the whole family join in with some of the sensory diet activities, everybody jumps or swings, etc, that way she didn’t feel singled out. My two take turns jumping all the time : )

Holly writes:

Most specialists and researchers agree that kids benefit from self-understanding. Thankfully, there are more and more books written for kids that help them understand the range of learning and sensory differences. E.g., The Joey Pig Swallows the Key series is about a boy with ADHD.

Have you heard of the book "The Goodenoughs Get in Sync: 5 Family Members Overcome their Special Sensory Issues" It's by Carol Stock Kranowitz and is a fictionalized account from a "family" about each of their sensory issues and how they cope. It's educational as well as fun to read!

Jane writes:

I haven't told my son in the form of a meeting or anything. When he hears
motorcycles and covers his hears, I have told him, "Wow, your ears hear better than other people. Maybe you could cover them with your hands when noises are too loud."

He will hear things that I don't and I will comment, "Wow, what else do you hear.  You got some great hearing there, tell me what else you hear."

When we were going through all the testing this year, I told him, "We want to see how well your ears are working" ;or his eyes or whatever else he was being tested for.  After his hearing test, I said, "Yup the doctor said that God made your ears to hear things better than the average bear!" (he loves pooh).

I often tell him lately, "The doctors told me that you are smarter than the average bear"; because I was worried about his self esteem. He knows that people can write and draw better than he can. He can spell words but has big fine motor issues. He gets frustrated that he can't make his hands write the way he wants to. I think that by telling him that he is smarter he can understand why he KNOWS things but can't do them. It seems to work for now.

I don't tell him he has problems, I just say, "Keep working on it.  Keep practicing. You'll get it... we all have to learn to write by practicing".

I don't want him to see himself as disabled. I want him to build on his strengths and find ways to overcome the obstacles that he faces. He can't write, but he can type his name on the computer and navigate through the internet to put on his Barney games.

I tell him that we go to the OT because she has cool swings.

When I cut his hair and he is screaming ballistically, I acknowledge that his hair is sharp.  I tell him, I know that it hurts him but I have to cut it or it will hurt his eyes. Same with his nails. Giving him brushings first and a sensory pillow to hold helps somewhat.

I don't make him ride any rides that make him uncomfortable. We went to the amusement park and he asked, "Are you mad at me for not riding the motorcycles?"  I said, "no. you don't have to ride them if you don't want. We come here for you to have fun.  If it isn't fun, don't do it."

I guess if he asks me I would still find a way to tell him that he was created the way he is in a positive way. I mean honestly, there are things that he can do that "normal" children can't.  You should see him on the gym rings and ladder swings. He is incredible!  He pulls himself upside down so his feet are pointing to the ceiling and spins.... and spins... and spins... and spins.

It is my opinion that a child's perception of himself is what will help him overcome the obstacles that he has.  We are all given obstacles, some are given the sensory obstacles. There are worse things and less difficult things.  I see it as my job to teach him to look at his world as the glass that is half full and not half empty.

You may see my son in the Olympics some day or the local circus... so who am I to decide that this is an obstacle that he can't overcome or shouldn't incorporate into his life?

Share this page:
Enjoy this page? Please pay it forward. Here's how...

Would you prefer to share this page with others by linking to it?

  1. Click on the HTML link code below.
  2. Copy and paste it, adding a note of your own, into your blog, a Web page, forums, a blog comment, your Facebook account, or anywhere that someone would find this page valuable.

Related Resources

Another Mom describes how she explained SPD to her Child

Return to the Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD) home page

footer for Sensory Processing Disorder page

Copyright ©

Contact Us / Site Map / Disclaimer Privacy Policy